Hello there, friends.
Today, I’m mellowing out a little bit and talking about uncertainty. This is something I know we all deal with. Personally, I feel like I’ve been dealing with uncertainty a lot lately.
Ryan gets out of the Air Force in May and he’s looking for a new job, in a new state. We’ve got a baby coming in August and we don’t know where we’ll be living yet. The little boy that I interpret for just got moved to a new school. Because of that, I’m in the midst of figuring out what I’m doing with work until my next assignment starts in March. In general, there’s just a lot going on.
With all of that going on, I’m struggling to deal with the uncertainty of our future. I’ve never been in this situation and it’s really scary for me. Having to address a situation that you’ve never been in, head on is a really scary concept. Grant Cardone says, that if you’re facing new challenges, you’re heading in the right direction. But guys..this can be really terrifying. So much of life is very predictable and I think we very often can get stuck in this cycle of normality and consistency. That can honestly be a dangerous game. It can be dangerous because, when something unexpected does come up, we don’t really know how to react to it. It’s a true test of how you handle stress, to be sure, but scary nonetheless.
On the flip-side, I do think there is something special about living in uncertainty and today, that’s what I really wanted to talk about.
A few weeks ago, I had a bit of a meltdown just thinking about the uncertainty of our future. I felt scared because I’ve never been in a situation like this before. However, Ryan calmed me down and tried to tell me that crying and feeling sorry for yourself over a situation is not going to help the situation. If you haven’t learned by now, Ryan is a pretty straight forward kind of guy and this advice is typical from him hahaha. After being mildly angry that he didn’t feel sorry for me…I got myself together and actually, in a strange turn of events a few days later, I found this amazing book that I wanted to share. The first chapter alone has helped me immensely. The book is 13 Things Mentally Strong People Don’t Do and it’s been amazing.
In the book, I read that often, when we are dealing with a situation where we feel a decent amount of uncertainty, our first instinct is to feel sorry for ourselves. We feel this way because that’s the easiest way to put off dealing with the actual situation. However, that’s not going to get you anywhere. Annoyingly, this is exactly what Ryan says all the time. It’s like he wrote this book himself.
Anyway, my favorite quote from this chapter is “if you never take a step in the right direction, you’ll stay right where you are”. If you’re overwhelmed, take a step back and really think about those emotions you’re feeling. Think about what you can do right now, or even in the very near future to change how you’re feeling, to take a step in that right direction.
Living with uncertainty of the future is scary, but it doesn’t have to take over your life and you shouldn’t let it. Take a break every now and then and really work out your priorities. Figure out what can be handled now and what can wait until later. You can deal with uncertainty. It’s healthy and it will grow you and change you in the most unexpected ways.